The last few days, my oldest daughter has been extremely emotional. Both of my girls are anxious kids and I'm somewhat use to it but the last few days have been over the top. I asked the girls to clean their room and my oldest burst into tears saying how I didn't love her anymore because I was making them clean their room. THAT dramatic. I will admit that I cried when she said she thought I didn't love her anymore. I sat her down and told her how much I loved her and the importance of keeping her room clean. She apologized and said that she knew that I really loved her.
Let me give a little back story:
Last week, the girls stepmom was watching the girls while I worked and then I went to go and pick them up at my ex-husband's house. The girls had made a fort and they wanted me to go in and see it. I went in and I saw all the Dr. Seuss books that I bought the girls a few years back when the ex and I were still married. I'd been asking for them for a few weeks when I saw them in the background when FaceTiming the girls. Of course the ex refused to give them back because he's extremely spiteful. So when I was at their house, I saw them and my daughter asked if we could take them back since they belonged at my house and his wife said "We can talk about that another time." I looked at her, grabbed the books and said "No, I'll take my books back now. Let's go girls." The girls then walked into the living room so we could leave. His wife tried blocking me so I couldn't leave with the books and told me that I should have gotten them three years ago when we divorced (It's only been two years in August. Just proves she doesn't know what the hell she's talking about.) But the thing is... my ex would hide some of the girls things so I couldn't take them. I had asked about these books specifically and about a sandbox that my parents bought my girls. He told me he didn't have them but here we are, I found out that he took the sandbox to his new house and then I saw these books. The girls heard his wife and I having our disagreement. I kept telling her that I bought these books... one of them was even my book as a child... and that I was taking them. She kept saying that they were in her house so it was *HER* property. I made my way through the house and the girls and I left. My youngest daughter looked at me and told me she was angry with her stepmom because of how ugly she was to me. My daughter is definitely a mommy's girl. She gets angry anytime that she thinks that someone is hurting me or my feelings. I always have to tell her that I'm okay and that nothing bothers mommy! I think a lot of it stems from seeing her father throwing household items at me in front of them.
Let's fast forward to today,
We had a very important meeting today with the girls principal. Neither of them showed up. Neither of them texted saying that they wouldn't make it or if they could Facetime so they could hear the meeting or ANYTHING. I think they were so upset about the books that they didn't want to see me at the meeting. Just shows me once again that they aren't putting their feelings aside for the girls.
This evening my oldest was upset and she wouldn't say why until I was alone with her. She told me that she is still extremely bothered about how her stepmom doesn't like me and how ugly she is to me. She doesn't understand how her stepmom can act nice in front of them and how when they aren't around, she is ugly to me.
I don't even know what to tell them anymore. I told her that it doesn't matter how I'm treated as long as they aren't being mistreated. My sweet girl told me how important I was and that she loved me so much.
I think it's time to seek some counseling for the girls. I want them to see that mommy is trying to make things work for them. I want them to get help now and get their feelings out so they don't keep things bottled in like I do. Hell, I even think it's time for me to get some therapy.
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