It’s your loss…

I can't say that my feelings aren't hurt. Because they definitely are. I just don't understand how a father doesn't want to be there for his kids. I think it hurts me because I know how special my girls are. I just don't know why their father puts them on the back burner.

Friday we had their school Thanksgiving meal and me and my mom were the only ones who showed up. The night before, I asked their dad and stepmom if they were going and they both said no because they had to work. Just a question: how many parents work but ask off for school functions?

I usually look at the school calendar a month in advance and take off any days that the girls have school functions or days off. Their father always tells me "well I don't have sick days or days off. I can't take off." I make less than half of the income he makes. I don't have sick days either but I'm always there for the kids. I'm there when they're sick. I'm there for them for school functions. I'm always there.

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They aren't lying when they say that kids will eventually see who's there for them and who isn't. While the girls were doing their "what I'm thankful for" crafts, both girls put the exact same things:

-Mommy

-Sister

-GiGi & Pa

-God

-Cuncle & Auntie BeBe

-Friends

-Gram & PopPop

Neither of them put that they were thankful for their dad and stepmom. As much as it hurts that their dad doesn't want to be there for them, I'm so happy to know that they realize that they can always count on their mommy. They know that I will always be there for them.

Last night I text their dad asking if he'd like one evening with the girls since he wasn't going to get them on Thursday like he normally does. The text went completely unanswered. I try to be nice and give him a little extra time with the girls but he doesn't want it. I'm done with trying to force him to be part of the girls lives. I'm done seeing my girls be let down by their father constantly. I'm done inviting him to the girls functions and him not showing. It's his loss.

There's nothing worse than a man that can be everything to everybody else... except a father to their own child.